How To Get Your Kids To Speak Your Language

Note: This experience had to do with preservinggroup of Latin immigrants to the United States, the
Spanish for our kids but the principles are valid forItalians.
anyone trying to help their kids speak and preserve"Some social critics were aware of the consequences
any language and culture.of sudden assimilation. Mary McDowell, a social worker,
COUNTRY OF MANY PEOPLESwrote en 1904:
This country,,, (The authors raised their kids in the'The contempt for the experiences and languages of
United States but they believe that their experiencetheir parents which foreign children sometimes exhibit...
can be useful for people in other non-spanish-speakingis doubtless due in part to the overestimation which the
countries.) This country is made up of people from allschool places upon speaking English. This cutting into
over the world. We or our parents came from Latinhis family loyalty takes away one of the most
countries. We now live here. We function in twoconspicuous and valuable traits of the Italian child.' She
different worlds, the American world and the world ofattributed the lawlessness of some of the immigrant
our parents. All of us live in these two different worldschildren to their disrespect for their parents and
in different ways. Some of us were born in thetherefore for all authority."
countries our parents came from; others of us were(La Storia: Five Centuries of the Italian American
born here. This makes a difference in how and howExperience, Mangione and Morreale, p. 222)
much we live in our two worlds.Finally, the ability to speak another language can be a
COUNTRY OF MANY LANGUAGESgreat boost to a child's self esteem. If the child's
The one thing that is most important in our parents'parents make it clear that they are proud of their
world is their language which is also ours in differentlanguage and of their people, the child will feel closer to
ways. The Spanish language of our parents is an issuehis parents and to their heritage, customs, and most
to all of us every day. We may be proud to speak itimportantly to their values.
well. We may be ashamed at not speaking it well.HOW TO ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILDREN TO
Some of us may have gone through periods of tryingSPEAK SPANISH
not to speak it because we wanted to speak EnglishStart early. Try to speak only Spanish to the child. If
better. We may only speak it when we come acrossonly one parent speaks Spanish well, that person
someone who needs help in understanding English. Weshould always speak Spanish with the child. Do not be
may only remember some sayings of ourafraid of "confusing" the child. Children can identify with
grandparents or children's songs taught to us by ourdifferent speakers of different languages as they
parents.grow up.
You may want to review (or study it for the first time)1. Read simple stories and fairy tales to the child in
your Spanish. We could only find one reference forSpanish. if you can't find children's literature in Spanish,
you. It is expensive and is a textbook, not toothen make your own translations as you go along. It is
appealing but complete. Take a look at Nuevosnot necessary that the translation be perfect. Make up
Mundos, Spanish for Native Speakers 2nd Edition,your own stories. It is important for your child to have
Workbook : Curso de espanol para estudiantesthe memories of hearing nursery rhymes in Spanish.
bilingues"2. Leave your radio tuned de Spanish language
F. Bruce Robinson, assistant director in the Nationalstations. Linguists place a great deal of importance on
Endowment for the Humanities' division of education"passive listening" as part of learning a language,
programs asks "How does America preserve thisespecially for young children.
important resource of people who are proficient in3. In most areas there is a Spanish language TV
other languages? Instead of trying to depress thestation. Put on the Saturday morning cartoons in
knowledge these students come to school with, weSpanish.
ought to be trying to build on it." (Chronicle of Higher4. Teach simple nursery rhymes and simple songs to
Education, Feb. 2, 1994, page A15)your child. If you don't remember them or if you were
OUR CHILDREN AND OUR LANGUAGEnot taught any from your parents' traditions, look for
We all want our children to speak the language of theirthem in garage sales, college bookstores, or your local
heritage. We discount the opinions of those who saylibrary. Do you remember el patito or pinpn? Look for
that it is better to forget Spanish and to concentratesongs in Spanish.
on speaking English well. These people are just wrong.5. Rent videos in Spanish. They are beginning to be
It does not hurt your English to speak anotheravailable - and not only in cities with a big
language; it helps. Spanish is particularly useful toSpanish-speaking population!
children in their learning English vocabulary. Just today I6. Use proverbs and dichos in Spanish. Some
taught my daughter the difference between vowelsexpressions that you would say in English are just as
and consonants. Knowing Spanish really helped withlegitimate proverbs in Spanish. Get your child used to
the idea of the consonants. I told her that thehearing them in Spanish. You can do this even if you
consonants have no voice; they can only bedon't speak Spanish well. For example, say mejor
pronounced with the vowels. The con-sonants suenantarde que nunca instead of "better late than never".
con the vowels.Little by little, poco a poco, you'll feel at home with
But although most of us agree that it is a good thingmore uniquely Latin expressions. They have something
for our kids to speak Spanish, most kids in the USof the culture wrapped up in them. They are
whose parents were born in Latin American countriesstubbornly different from Anglo Saxon proverbs.
do not speak Spanish well.7. Get used to saying menos mal in place of "just as
Even if both parents speak Spanish at home, quitewell". The English expression is "better than nothing"; in
often the kids answer their parents in English. Lookmany Southamerican countries, the equivalent
around at your Latin friends and relatives and you willexpression is peor es nada. Find proverbs.
see that most give up on teaching their kids to speak8. Don't correct their Spanish when they speak. Don't
Spanish. Chicano and Puerto Rican families seem tointerrupt the flow of their conversation. Don't make
have a little better luck than Latinos from othertheir speaking Spanish to be another homework
countries with keeping Spanish alive in their barrios butassignment. It should be something special, even
even their younger generation is losing fluency insomething "secret" in your family. Kids like the mystery
Spanish.and intrigue of having something special of their own.
However, parents who want their children to speakTheir speaking Spanish should be a joyful,
Spanish can go against the current and set the stagenon-threatening experience. If they make mistakes in
for their children to grow up speaking Spanish. It is nottheir grammar, correct their errors by using the same
easy. Most families fail in their resolve but it can beexpression correctly a few minutes after. Don't come
done. This report will give some hints on how toright back at them with the correct form or they will
improve your chances.begin to feel conscious of their expression and choke
REASONS FOR OUR CHILDREN TO SPEAKoff their freedom of expression.
SPANISH9. Get a good syllabary to teach them the value of the
There are many reasons why it is good for the kids toletters and how to read in Spanish. If your child's first
speak your language. One obvious reason is thelanguage is Spanish teach them to read Spanish
advantage that it might be for them in the job market.before they learn English. You will be doing them a big
As long as we live in a world with shrunken distancesfavor. They will learn to sound out the regular spelling
and growing international trade, someone has to beof Spanish which will be a good base on which to
able to talk with people from other countries.learn how to read in English. You will get the same
Professor Francisco X. Alarcn of the University ofresults as those who spend money on expensive
California at Davis says that "now that we are movingPhonics programs.
toward a global economy, it's O.K. to be bilingual in the10. The best way to get your children to grow in
U.S." (Chronicle of Higher Education, Feb.2, 1994, pageSpanish is to send them to spend some time with
A15)relatives or friends where they will only speak and
Another good reason for you to work at yourhear Spanish. This works best at around 7 years old
children's learning to speak Spanish is because it willwhen children play easily with one another and when
make you proud to hear the compliments of yourSpanish will just come naturally even to the child who
friends and countrymen because your children are ablehas very little exposure to the language. Another good
to speak your language. You grow in prestige as aage for a child to be exposed to a Spanish speaking
person who values your roots.environment is at around 12 years old. At this age, the
Your children will also be able to speak with theirchild has greater mental development and can
relatives thanks to improved phone service which isobserve customs and situations in which certain
entering the most remote villages of our countries.expressions are used. At twelve years old most kids
Direct dialing from the United States is economicalare still pre-adolescents and are not hampered by the
enough to be able call a few times a year. The thrill ofembarrassment, self consciousness, and "feeling
being able to talk to their uncles, aunts, and cousins willdifferent" which hold back teenagers from learning a
get the kids interested in keeping up their language.language or customs different from their own.
They will be speaking to their relatives not only byUse any of the above methods but start! Your efforts
phone but will be able to visit them. The experience ofwill communciate to your children the importance that
knowing another culture will put them ahead of theiryou give to Spanish even if these efforts are not
classmates who have no ties to their roots.always completely successful.
Another reason to encourage our children to speak1994 F.
Spanish can be gotten from the history of a previous