| The "mail order brides" industry is continually attacked | | | | "Lower your standards to what you can reasonably |
| by feminist groups pushing politically to prohibit men | | | | attain, and leave these poor, vulnerable women alone. I |
| accessing foreign women. This article demonstrates | | | | want to cry when I think of the horror these women |
| the argument against "mail order brides" services is | | | | face when they are stuck with losers like you." |
| primarily emotional. | | | | I feel very sorry for you Amy. Your self-inflicted pain |
| "So you provide these things to lure vulnerable young | | | | comes from a vision of terror that does not exist. I |
| women away from lives of poverty." | | | | hope it is not too late for you to feel better about |
| Amy if you were to tell these women that they lead | | | | yourself. I invite you to answer all the questions I have |
| lives of poverty they would slap you in the face. The | | | | asked, and by that I do not mean respond. I mean |
| poverty of a woman's pocket is meaningless to an | | | | actually answer my questions, surprise me with an |
| American man. The impoverishment of a woman soul, | | | | exchange void of glaring lies and insulting attacks. Can |
| heart and values is not. Foreign women would consider | | | | you raise yourself to those standards? If what you |
| you the poor person for having the latter. One of the | | | | believe is true, you should have no difficulty in |
| many reasons they are drawn to American men is | | | | presenting a logical, rightful position. Now if you don't |
| because we can recognize such difference, as do | | | | mind, I have to eat dinner, burned rice. |
| they. | | | | Jamie |
| Amy aren't these women adults free to make | | | | Engage the Exotic |
| responsible adult decisions? I have women on my | | | | "I would like to say that I am sorry for launching a |
| website over 50 years old, at what age is a woman | | | | personal attack on you, a total stranger. I have just |
| able to make a decision on her own without you | | | | heard so many horror stories about these kinds of |
| denouncing her ability to do so? My last engagement | | | | things. But I did let my anger at these injustices get the |
| was with a couple both in their 40's is she another | | | | better of me, and I should not have." |
| vulnerable, young woman Amy? Who should validate if | | | | Amy apologizes for the personal attack; yet what |
| these women are too young or vulnerable in deciding | | | | injustice and horror stories is she referring to? It |
| who and when to marry, you Amy? Or do you | | | | appears she is saying that foreign women from |
| suggest we form a committee to make such a | | | | developing countries that marry American men are at |
| decision for them? | | | | risk. But she does not say what this risk is, why they |
| Earlier you said women look for positive qualities in a | | | | are at risk, to what extent they are at risk or if the risk |
| partner, but at the same time, you don't believe these | | | | is any different than any American man or American |
| women look for such qualities. What makes you think | | | | woman would face being married. Amy does not |
| these women are materialistic oriented. Is it possible | | | | factor in any evidence to justify her emotional outcry. |
| that you are the materialist and can't comprehend | | | | Her anger is based on a false conclusion. |
| other women outlooks being different then yours? | | | | "That said, I do find your website extremely offensive |
| "Are you at all embarrassed or ashamed about that?" | | | | and inflammatory in that you stereotype and degrade |
| Amy I am very proud and happy in what I do. What is | | | | American women by saying that men can find |
| even more important is the happiness and joy I bring to | | | | "younger, more beautiful women than what is locally |
| the couples we bring together. It appears the only | | | | available" in Latin America." |
| people who are not happy are people like you who | | | | This fact does not degrade American women. It |
| enjoy intervening in other people's happiness. As I said | | | | speaks of the competitive advantage that American |
| to you before, you won't directly talk to these women | | | | men have internationally due to qualities that foreign |
| because it would only corroborate what I have been | | | | women appreciate and are often not accustomed to |
| telling you. They select men for marriage out of love | | | | from the local men. What I believe you find "offensive" |
| for that man. You won't talk to the ones that have | | | | is American men selecting a foreign wife that you |
| been married for 5 years, you won't talk to the ones | | | | consider to be of lower caliber than American women. |
| that have been married for 10 years, and you won't | | | | "That statement does not speak very highly of your |
| talk to my Mom a foreign bride happily married to my | | | | customers - it also stereotypes them (as shallow)." |
| dad for over 45 years. She raised five children and | | | | Why is it shallow to appreciate beauty and youth? |
| had a career working for one company for over 30 | | | | You can claim beauty is superficial, but the reality is |
| years. They now lead a life of world travel, family visits | | | | most of us want to be beautiful (women more so than |
| and volunteer work. No I do not think you will talk with | | | | men) and most men enjoy the company of beautiful |
| such women. The thought of your false, shallow | | | | looking women. If we want chocolate instead of |
| book-learned ideals being shattered by the realties of | | | | broccoli you telling us that broccoli has more nutrition |
| their happiness and real life perspective would be just | | | | and substance than chocolate does not make us |
| too incongruent for your entrenched twisted views. | | | | superficial for our selection of chocolate. |
| "You do realize that there is nothing about you as a | | | | "It is ironic because you imply that American women |
| person that would make anyone want to marry you, | | | | place too much importance on money and personality, |
| only things that you happen to possess by virtue of | | | | and then you appeal to the superficial and shallow |
| being lucky enough to be born in the U.S." | | | | aspects of your customers who are placing |
| Amy I am a typical American man. My possessions | | | | importance on age and physical appearance." |
| are average and everything I possess came from | | | | People do not consider youth and beauty as irrelevant |
| hard work and endeavor. No woman's eyes are going | | | | as you do. At no time do I say this is all that men want |
| to pop-out by looking at my possessions. I would have | | | | and at no time does wanting a beautiful, young, foreign |
| to say you are the lucky one Amy. Very few places in | | | | wife correlate to superficiality on their part. What you |
| the world can a woman say such reckless and | | | | are doing is no different than calling someone shallow |
| unsubstantiated believes as you have without | | | | and superficial for playing paddle ball on the beach |
| consequences. But you live in the United States, so | | | | instead of chess in the den. |
| you can promote unproductive agendas and extol | | | | "Do these men seem any more noble than the |
| feminist myths with no consequences for the damage | | | | American women (as you describe them) that they |
| that entails from your deceptive messages. How lucky | | | | are trying to avoid?" |
| you are. But you know what; your misguided view | | | | I never said these men are trying to "avoid" American |
| does not penetrate my well-being. You are correct in | | | | women. I am pronouncing that they have other |
| calling me lucky. I often tell my beautiful wife Karina | | | | alternatives to American women, an extension of their |
| how lucky I am to have met her, and you know what | | | | search horizon. |
| Amy... she tells me the same thing. | | | | "I understand that these are marketing tactics and you |
| "You are trying to get something you do not deserve: | | | | must appeal to your customers. But relationships are |
| love, loyalty, respect, companionship." | | | | not trade negotiations, where one party says: "o.k., I am |
| Amy everything you have said is nothing more then an | | | | bringing X beauty points to the table and Y personality |
| emotional diatribe you provide no content to your | | | | points, what does that buy me?"" |
| message. You are nothing more then a name caller. I | | | | Every relationship is an exchange, and yes a form of |
| can only imagine that if you had any physical strength | | | | negotiations is taking place. They may be exchanging |
| you would also be a bully. | | | | your love and support for my love and support or any |
| "News Flash: If you have to pay someone to be | | | | of a variety of role designations. What each party |
| around you, then the relationship is not real." | | | | brings to the table may not be directly negotiated, but |
| I would agree. Why do you bring this up? The men do | | | | an evaluation is taking place on how a potential partner |
| not pay for the woman and the women do not pay | | | | attributes meets your desires and needs. Yet none of |
| for the man. | | | | this has anything to do with a "buy" and this decision |
| "Accept the fact that you are a loser, doomed to be | | | | making process goes on whether we are aware of it |
| alone, or content yourself with finding another loser like | | | | or not and it is a good way of determining if both are a |
| yourself who may want to be with you." | | | | good fit for the relationship. |
| Amy I am a happily married man living a fun life. Any | | | | "You say an American version of your wife would not |
| objective person would be able to see your | | | | be interested in you. What exactly does that mean?" |
| considerations are clouded with hate and bigotry. You | | | | I said she would not notice me. This means I would not |
| hate the idea of American men having alternatives to | | | | catch the eye of an extremely beautiful American |
| American women, and you have a superiority complex | | | | woman 18 years younger than me. |
| and a prejudice towards foreign women. A confidant | | | | "What is an American "version" of your wife?" |
| woman would not be threatened by competition, but it | | | | The short answer is a top of the line woman with |
| appears to scare you. You hide your fear under the | | | | super model looks in the prime of her youth with a |
| guise that you care about these women to the point | | | | college education. |
| that you fabricate their condition and what is in their | | | | "How do you qualify that statement?" |
| hearts. If anyone should be ashamed Amy, it is you. | | | | I will quantify it for you a perfect 10. |